About Newborn mamas
First of all Congratulations!
You are at the start of the most exciting journey of your life.
The journey to motherhood!
As you are starting this journey you may be very excited but you may also feel a bit overwhelmed for what lies ahead!
Time has come to wave goodby to the "sage-femme liberale" and your husband has to go back to work. You are now alone and have to take care of this fragile new baby all by yourself. However, having a newborn means you are a Newborn Mother as well and the truth is that nothing can prepare you enough for motherhood as you can only learn by doing!
So the best thing to do is ask for help and be specific on what kind of help you need and want as people may have the will but not the experience to help.
Isolation is not the way to go for new mothers. In traditional societies the new mother was given great care and attention from the whole village and everybody helped her, hence the proverb "It takes a village to raise a child". In modern societies nuclear families prevailed and this has eclipsed. Also, attachment parenting, although beneficial for baby and mother, has put a lot of pressure on her shoulders and without her getting the support she needs the odds are against her. As the WHO (World Health Organization) states around 13% of new moms experience Postpartum Depression worldwide, regardless of their ethnicity, education or location.
So the best thing for you is to build this village!
But you may say "I am an expat and don't know many people, my family is far away or I don't want them staying with me..". Well, that is where a postpartum doula can help.